Living without borders means rarely saying “no” and putting others’ feelings before your own. Not only are these charitable habits exhausting, but they also put you on a straight path to exhaustion, which is a significant health risk for yourself. They ignore how much work or effort you can handle on a regular basis.
Here we take a look at 5 amazing things that happen when you set boundaries.
You’re more self-aware
Self-awareness is the art of seeing your needs and feelings as your own, not attached to one person or your environment. Creating your own boundaries is an innate act of self-confidence—doing so can be very beneficial to your own well-being.
You become a better friend and partner
Boundaries make charging possible. When you’re not working at full capacity, you have more energy to devote to your loved ones. It will also help you better respect your own needs
You take better care of yourself
Boundaries help you prioritize your own happiness, plain and simple. It is not selfish to take care of yourself and your own needs while taking care of the needs of others. Setting boundaries makes you more effective and less tired from helping
You’re a better communicator
To really be able to set limits, you have to say what you can or cannot tolerate. This means being concise and clear. Expressing your needs can also make you more transparent. All of these qualities are elements of good communication. Communicate rather than expect or expect others to respect or understand your boundaries. There is no need for a long and confusing justification for setting limits
You start trusting people more
People worry that they will hurt or upset people by setting limits or boundaries. For many, love and approval are tied to pleasing others, and setting limits means you are taking a risk that you will not be loved or accepted
But by engaging in this type of behaviour, you’re actually acting out of a place of control or fear. Expressing your limitations to others means you’re trusting them to handle those emotions you’re conveying, Buck said. And more trust means better relationships.