”There is no such thing as good writing, only good rewriting”- Robert Graves
FIRST, REFLECT & REEVALUATE…
About 5 years ago, at this time of year, an incident [nothing that broke the camel’s back] took place in my life that set the wheel in motion for me to start reflecting,re-evaluating and re-assessing my own life.
It dawned on me…
Striving to be”Perfect”, Waiting for ”The right time”, Self doubting ”Am I doing the right thing?”, Waiting for validation ”What will others think?’’
These were my own worst enemies,they stopped me from shining and being who I truly am – ME.
Being a captive of my own worst beliefs and assuming what others were thinking did not serve me in moving ahead. It trapped me. It was living a life which was not fully mine
A life which is ‘’Not’’ on your terms and beliefs is a life that leaves you exhaustingly breathless – STUCK !
I asked myself, what’s the meaning of living my life on my own ”Terms and Beliefs”
For each individual ‘’living life on my own terms’’ means different things to different people.We all have our own versions of the same.
My understanding of living my life on my own terms was about leading and living a meaningful and purposeful life. A life where I honoured and lived by my values. A life with flexibility and freedom of expression A place and space where I can have my own interpretation of success and perfection.
I wanted to surround myself with like minded people, who had similar values, ideologies and purpose..The urge to experience and feel fulfilled and complete surpassed all the doubts in me.I began sowing the seeds for my own transformation, rewiring my mindset and rewriting my life became my top priority.
You can live the life you truly yearn, desire and love – By living it your own terms and beliefs
The inception of this journey starts with you reflecting and reevaluating your life. The questions that helped me with my journey are below for you to ponder on…
- What are my values, and am I honouring them?
Values are what you strongly believe in, they come from within you and are very personal. So reflect on your personal values and notice if you are living your life by your values. Values are guidelines that enable you to make decisions that are in sync with who you are and what you believe in. Decisions made from that place are the ones you feel in alignment with and they feel good to make.
- What’s my life purpose – am I living by it?
Your life purpose is what you truly want from your life. They are your passions and desires. It’s what makes you complete. The reason you wake up every morning no matter what. It’s the essence of your existence. Connect with your life purpose. Ask yourself – ‘’Is my purpose aligned with my life?
- What am I doing now? And who am I being doing that?
Reassess where you are currently in life. Does it fit in with where you really wanted to be? Who are you emerging as when you play that current role? – A Fighter, a Compassionate, a Visionary, an Explorer, an Adventurer, a Creator, an Achiever…
- What is the why in your life? What’s the reason you wake up every morning?
My personal view on this is each individual, each person has to find and define and clarify and will have their own interpretation of their own ‘’Why’’in life. Motivation is the key ingredient here. Each one of us has an inbuilt supply of motivation and creativity. In order to find your ‘’Why’’ you have to unearth your source of inspiration. Question your actions, your every move, your thought process and you will soon get clarity and awareness around your ‘’why’’. When you know your WHY – you can figure out the HOW.
- What is gratitude?
Step back and reflect what you’re grateful for. Being grateful or having gratitude means being thankful, showing appreciation for/or towards someone. It’s being humble and respectful for what you have in your life.
- What is to forgive – others and myself?
Ask yourself when was the last time you forgave others and yourself. The act of forgiving liberates you, it is a kind of peace that enables you to move forward guilt free. A burden removed from your shoulders. It brings compassion and empathy for others and yourself.
- Where do I see myself in the future?
The future is tricky to predict.However, thinking and planning ahead enables you to have a plan – a framework that supports you in reaching your vision, dream or goals in life.
- What impact do I want to have on others?
Imagine you are standing in the centre of a beautiful wooden stage in an ornate auditorium. You are giving a talk, the light is shining on you. You are looking at the audience and they are staring back at you. If this was your only chance, what impact would you like to have on everyone present.
NEXT, RELEASE…
You have reflected and reevaluated,now it is time to start Releasing and…
- Letting go of the need to be perfect
- Letting go of the need to be busy non stop
- Letting go of the people who pull you down
- Letting go of being your own inner bully and critic
- Letting go of being judgemental about yourself
- Letting go of the ‘he said ..she said’ blame game
- Letting go of the need to be a constant pleaser to all
- Letting go of your ego and ask for support
- Letting go of worry
- Letting go of the past
- Letting go of living in the future
- Letting go of activities that don’t bring you joy
These are a few areas to start with,inshort you can let go and release anything or anyone that traps you and makes you feel frustrated and unhappy.
By letting go, you will experience a new found freedom,calmness and peace to be ‘’You’’ finally and live a life on your terms
Finally, start REWRITING AND RESCRIPTING your life
With this new found freedom of expression of thought, speech and action you can begin rewriting your life story.
Ask yourself if you had only one chance to make a movie about your life what would that be?.
Or, if you could write your biography what impact would you want to create and have on your readers and yourself?
Make yourself the main character and take the centre stage. Let the light shine on you!
The power to choose is in you and with you. So you need to ensure that you make the choices which elevate you in life, which resonate with you and are aligned with your values, beliefs and purpose of life.
Our choices create our mindset and thought and behaviour patterns. So choose wisely, take your time, there is no rush and nothing to prove to anyone.
This is your life so make it matter for you!
SO NOW, I ask you…
- Are you ready to Release and let go of things,thoughts and people that don’t serve you?
- Are you ready to Reflect and Reevaluate your life?
- Are you ready to Rewrite, Rephrase and Rescript the story of your life?
I would love to be part of your great journey to do this. Let’s have a chat and I will show you how I can help you move forward in life.
Before we start your coaching journey, it’s very important to explore if we are a good fit. Do we have that important coaching chemistry?
If what I have been saying on these pages speaks to you – then please book your free 30 min no obligation call with me NOW using the link below or email: bhavya@forwardfocuslondon.com
